How To Use BDSM To Improve Intimacy in Marriage

Should I Practice BDSM to keep my Long Term Relationship Alive?

I can already hear the mashing of teeth and the howls of disapproval when people read this article: “What? I’m supposed to whip my partner or let them whip me so that we can feel more intimate with each other?” Well Yea! Got a problem with that?

Intimacy in Marriage and All Long Term Relationships Is Hard

BDSM is an acronym that stands for Bondage & Discipline / Domination & Submission / Sadism

Stress Less This Holiday Season – Your Health Depends On It!

Stress leads to disease, anxiety disorders and depression

Actually good health depends on living a less stressful life more of the time,yet the holiday season tends to bring out the stress in all of us. Before I make some suggestions about how to be less stressed this time of year I want to share the highlights of some new research from Carnegie Mellon University in Pittsburgh on how stress can actually bring on sickness and disease.

When we are stressed out our body

Mindfulness Center Proposed for Colorado State University

CSU personal have proposed a Mindfulness Training Center on the Fort Collins, CO campus. I was recently interviewed about mindfulness in the workplace and its effectiveness for stress reduction and improved employee performance in the workplace:

Indeed, mindfulness training can help employees deal with workplace pressures by helping them realize the irrationality of their fear, which causes them stress, said Larry Cappel, a licensed psychotherapist in Denver.
“When we are calmer and less reactive, we work better together,” he said.
A common myth is that people need to feel stressed to

How to Hold a Grudge Like The Hatfields and McCoys

When do you forgive a grudge and move on?

I recently traveled to Cuba on a People to People tour. I learned a lot about USA/Cuban relationships or lack thereof. Part of what I learned was how the USA has been holding a grudge against the Cuban people since 1959, 55 years! That’s a long time to hold a grudge and it got me wondering why. I’m reminded of the stories of the Hatfields and McCoys; families holding multi-generational

Is Social Anxiety Disorder Wrecking Your Marriage?

80% of people with Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD) go undiagnosed. How to recognize it — and help your partner get better.

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I used to work as a psychiatric assessor in a downtown Denver hospital. We knew that a fair number of recently-divorced men over the age of about 50 are considered at high risk for suicide. Why this group? Because they often lose their social life when they lose their marriage. These are people who

Stress Management for Relief From Modern Life

4 Steps For Stress Management In A High Speed World

Modern life is busy. Developing good stress management and good stress relief skills is a necessity. Almost all of us have more to do then we can possibly get done each day. We commute, work, try to exercise, take care of a home, spend time with loved ones and hope to find time to rest and recreate. Oh, and don’t forget, time to sleep! If that isn’t enough to get stressed out about we are also

Anxiety and the Internet

Social Media, the Internet, Anxiety and your mind.

As a teacher of mindfulness meditation, I’m always interested in research that looks at the effects of modern life on our minds. Some recent research by Larry D. Rosen, PhD, California State University, shows some interesting finding about the effects of social media and high internet use on children’s and teenagers minds. Many of you are parents so I thought it would be useful to share this with

Stress Less for Success: Turn Stress And Anxiety To Play

Stress and Anxiety Are Made In Our Mind

Happy Fall and an abundant Thanksgiving! It’s been a busy and wonderful summer and now that most of us are again dealing with work, school and the upcoming holiday season, I feel it is a good time to write about stress and how to manage it.

Most of us experience stress and anxiety as something that is caused by events outside of our own personal awareness

“If my boss would only back off I’d be able

OH! We’re All Stressed Out!

A teaching from the Mahayana Buddhist tradition asks “If you can change a situation, then why worry? If you cannot change a situation, then why worry?” This explains the reason for much of our stress in life. We worry too much and all of that worry changes nothing yet makes us physically and mentally sick. If the solution to all of this stress is to relax then why is it so hard to relax?

All of us have probably experienced being told “don’t worry about it” when we are upset about something and I think it is