How Unhappy Relationships Are Caused by Unhappy Childhoods

The sources of an unhappy childhood are not what you might expect

How Unhappy Relationships Are Caused by Unhappy ChildhoodsMany people think that unhappy childhoods are the result of:

  • being poor – poverty by itself does not guarantee an unhappy childhood.
  • raised by a single parent –
  • a divorce during your childhood –
  • severe physical illness
  • severe mental illness
  • death of a parent, sibling or other close loved one

These things can contribute to an unhappy childhood. However, in a home with enough unconditional love from caregiver to child,

5 Ways to Find Your Way to Unconditional Love recently asked me to co-write along with two other relationship coaches an article on unconditional love for yourself. It was published today on their site:

Unconditional love for yourself is often the most important love you can feel. But are you doing it enough?

Unconditional Love Therapy: Denver COYou love your husband, kids and even your family’s furry friend who always sheds all over your favorite black pants. But what about loving yourself? Do you actively show yourself unconditional love or do you save it for everyone else? We sat

Conversion Therapy: Illegal In Cali, Immoral Everywhere

Conversion Therapy Is Not OK

You don’t have to choose between God and homosexuality

California recently became the first state in the nation to ban reparative orconversion therapy, reparative, reparative therapy, gay marriage, gay men conversion therapy for LGBT people. This good news has caused me to remembert my own coming out process and how difficult that was.

I came out of the closet as a gay man when I was 36 years old. My marriage was falling apart. My failed relationship somehow gave me the permission I needed to get honest about my


To be wronged is nothing unless you continue to remember it. Confucius

The way to use mistakes skillfully is to learn what there is to learn from the mistake and then forget the mistake ever happened. Do remember the lesson or you’ll be doomed to repeat it later.  I’ve often thought we’d all be better off if we had a memory-specific erase button somewhere on our head.