Couples Counseling Helps In A Lot Of Cases
guest post by Sharon
When you get married, hopefully it is for love and wanting to spend your lives together. However, it isn’t always this easy; life has a way of getting in the way and change happens. Understanding what to do in these situations is going to ensure that you have considered all options before you give up on your marriage and it ends in divorce.
Seeking Marriage Counseling
If you are looking to try all aspects of help available to you, considering marriage counseling. It can help. Not all couples will stay together even after counseling and it is important to realize that there are no guarantees.
However, the idea is to work with a trained counselor who is qualified to help mediate and open up communication between you and your partner, to build relationship skills and learn to resolve those conflicts in a manner that promotes listening and understanding. A counselor will also give you the skills to solve problems without resentment and anger.
Don’t Delay In Getting Help
The earlier that you are able to attend marriage counseling the better. If you can catch problems before negativity sets in you can prevent small issues from becoming toxic and destructive forces in your relationship. When negativity comes into a relationship, those thoughts and feelings are hard to change. It is possible to change and to get the relationship back on track, but it is going to take longer and there is the possibility that more work will be required.
Seeking help from a marriage counselor takes courage. You will need to accept that you are going to discuss some very difficult topics, which can make you feel upset and emotional. However, this is part of the process that you need to work through. Being open and honest is going to make the process easier, but understanding what got you to marriage counseling and what you hope to gain from the experience will help you have a successful counseling experience.
The Marriage Counseling Process
The aim of the process is to get the communication flowing between the individuals. This is often the first aspect of a marriage to suffer, if the communication leads to conflict and hurt, then removing yourself from this area is understandable. However, for a marriage to be successful long-term then communication and the ability to listen to what is being said is just one key to help fix the problem. There is no need for a marriage to rely on insults or demands, it should be a bond that grows with trust and respect for each other.
And If You Still Get Divorced?
There are instances where a counselor is not able to help repair the damage, and the marriage ends in divorce. However, if both of you have learned what you need to learn from your counseling experience, you won’t see these problems repeat themselves in your next relationship. It will have been worth the effort.
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