4 Steps For Stress Management In A High Speed World

Stress, stress management, anger management, stress reliefModern life is busy. Developing good stress management and good stress relief skills is a necessity. Almost all of us have more to do then we can possibly get done each day. We commute, work, try to exercise, take care of a home, spend time with loved ones and hope to find time to rest and recreate. Oh, and don’t forget, time to sleep! If that isn’t enough to get stressed out about we are also constantly frustrated by things not going our way, traffic jams, people not cooperating with our agenda, things breaking, and our own mistakes complicating our day.

Stress is a fear response in our body. When we experience fear our brain tells our body to release hormones and get ready to fight or run. Once the danger is over our bodies are supposed to drop the fight or flight response and return to normal. But if our day consists of one fear response after another then pretty soon our body can not drop back to a relaxed state and we are stressed out. Over time this predicament can cause stress-related physical illness, anxiety and depression.

Many of the things that trigger stress responses are things beyond our control, things like traffic jams, badly behaved computers and people not doing things our way. Since we can’t control our environment then we are left to control our mind. We have to learn not to get stressed out when daily frustrations happen. This is possible and here are the steps to do so.

The Stress Relief Steps Are:

  1. Come to understand that the cause of stress is in your mind not in the events of the day. Stress either happens or doesn’t happen baed on your response to whate is happening around you.
  2. A stressful life leads to health problems, depression and anxiety disorders
  3. You can change the way you respond to and manage stress events.
  4. Develop a mindful habit of recognizing when you are creating disastrous future “catastrophes” in your mind when things don’t go according to your plan and then firmly stopping yourself from continuing the disaster fantasy.
  5. In addition to changing your mind, you need to look at stress triggers in your life and determine which ones you can remove or modify.
  6. Stress triggers can include job issues, relationship troubles finance, commuting in traffic, illness and anything that is not going the way you expected it to go
  7. Change those stressors in your life that are changeable and find peace with those stressors that are not.

Got it? Easy enough huh?

Truth is that it takes time and training to change the deep seated habit of stressing out. Most of us learned it as children and have been running on auto pilot ever since. So the change from stress-response to go-with-the-flow response is usually a gradual change. It’s the process of unlearning the old habit of stressing out and learning the new habit of chilling out. Doing this requires us to develop the habit of mindfulness; being habitually aware of our thinking process then redirecting our thoughts when they head the wrong way.

This is possible for all of us to achieve. It requires commitment and dedication just like anything else worth learning how to do. In this case the skill to learn is mindfulness training. The primary way to learn mindfulness is through a daily mindfulness practice, which is also known to improve health, reduce stress, help with depression and anxiety and in general make us happier.

Do you have any experience dealing with stress in your relationship or at work? If so, share your experience in the comments below. I’ll do my best to respond in a timely manner.

I’m here to help. Call me, email me, or simply schedule your own appointment online now. My passion is to helping people to embrace their true nature and to create a loving, successful and wonderful life for themselves and their loved ones. Change is possible. Transform your life into the life you’ve always dreamed of! Don’t wait another day! Please stay in touch by signing up for my newsletter here.

Larry Cappel is a trained relationship coach and a licensed marriage and family therapist. He can be reached through his website if you’d like to talk about any aspect of your relationship.


Stress Management for Relief From Modern Life by